"There's a bit of magic in everything, and some loss to even things out." -Lou Reed

Saturday, May 31, 2008

A Morning Walk






Today I participated in the ALS Association's Walk to Defeat ALS. I was on Team Keri, and as many of you know I have been working on a fundraising campaign. Many of my friends donated, so thank you! I thought of you during the walk today. There are several "branches" of Team Keri--with the one in Greensboro being the largest--and closest to Keri's hometown. That walk will take place on June 14th.
As I have said before, I never got to meet Keri. I learned about her through her website, http://www.helpkeri.com/. I have since gotten to know her mom, Joanie, through emails. Joanie is an amazing woman--a grieving mom, a cancer survivor, a loving grandmother, and a woman on a mission. She is determined that her daughter's spirit will live on--and that she will work to find a cure for ALS.
I am so happy I have gotten to know this family and that I am getting to know some of Keri's friends. Keri had some wonderful friends, it never fails to touch me watching her friends in action now--as they all work to keep her memory alive and to surround Keri's mom and dad with love. They truly loved their friend.
This was a good day. My feet are tired, I could use a nap, but my heart is full!
To learn more about ALS, and how you can help, visit http://www.alsa.org/.
If you are interested in participating in an upcoming walk, or donating, you can click here.

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Tuesday, May 27, 2008

A Star is Lost


I gasped a little when I saw this news on CNN tonight. Sydney Pollack died today. I wasn't aware that he was ill, and this was a bit of a shock.
Sydney gave us so many great movies, among them two of my favorites, Tootsie and Out of Africa, and was such a great talent. I actually loved to watch him on screen--even though I know he was known more as a director. This is just sad news--that he won't bring us any more memories on camera or behind the lens. What a loss.
I love this statement from George Clooney: "Sydney made the world a little better, movies a little better and even dinner a little better. A tip of the hat to a class act," actor George Clooney said in a statement issued by his publicist.
For more on Sydney Pollack's passing, read this article from the LA Times.
Also, on EW's website, a nice article of Sydney's 25 career milestones. What a career.

Photo credit-Everett Collection-EW.com

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Monday, May 26, 2008

Co-worker


Lucy is very camera shy, so you may often see pictures of Baxter or Lilly on my blog, but rarely Lucy. When the camera comes out, she panics. Panic is one of her common reactions. The poor thing, she is just a nervous kitty. She always has been. The pictures I do manage to get of her always catch her looking weird, and she really is beautiful, so I rarely post them.

This picture captures her in one of our regular nightly routines, but I rarely have my camera handy. I think this is so cute. While I am working in bed, Lucy squishes up next to me and rests her head on the computer keyboard and watches everything I type. Her little eyes follow the cursor and the letters, and every now and then, she will turn and glance back at me. Adorable.

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Thursday, May 22, 2008

Work Rules

I had to give a presentation at work today to one of our business units. For those of you who talk to me --or rather listen to me talk about work--you know that I work with a large group of seriously opinionated engineers. Today was an all day meeting for this group starting at 7:45am (ouch!) and my presentation wasn't until 2:30pm.

When I walked into the room for the meeting, I saw this set of rules posted on the wall:

In case you can't read the fine print--here are the rules:
-No Personal Attacks
-Speak in turn
-Focus on Meeting Objective
--NO Personal Agendas
-What happens here- stays here
-Be here "Now" be engaged
-Follow through
--Clear action items
-Keep track of actions

No one could understand why I found this so funny, and that made it even funnier. Then, it got a little sad when I realized that they NEED these rules. It did get a little amusing during the meeting when someone felt personally "attacked", and they would point to this poster on the wall-- to "remind" the attacker of the rules. ...Ah, adulthood.

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Wednesday, May 21, 2008

Living?

I get CNN News Alerts delivered to my email inbox--these are activities or events that CNN deems worthy of giving the title of "breaking news". For instance, today, there was and update on Teddy Kennedy's condition, a more grave announcement than the one sent yesterday. Some days, I get an announcement that Obama has won this state, or Clinton has won that one. So today, when I saw that my friend Cassandra had forwarded me a CNN story with the subject line "ugghh- did you see this?"-- I thought it might be about the Ted Kennedy story. While the story about Ted Kennedy is indeed sad, the story she sent me stopped me in the middle of a hectic work day and actually distracted me for a good bit.




Mom forced to live in car with dogs

By Thelma Gutierrez and Wayne Drash CNN


SANTA BARBARA, California (CNN) -- Barbara Harvey climbs into the back of her small Honda sport utility vehicle and snuggles with her two golden retrievers, her head nestled on a pillow propped against the driver's seat. A former loan processor, the 67-year-old mother of three grown children said she never thought she'd spend her golden years sleeping in her car in a parking lot. "This is my bed, my dogs," she said. "This is my life in this car right now." Harvey was forced into homelessness this year after being laid off. She said that three-quarters of her income went to paying rent in Santa Barbara, where the median house in the scenic oceanfront city costs more than $1 million. She lost her condo two months ago and had little savings as backup. "It went to hell in a handbasket," she said. "I didn't think this would happen to me. It's just something that I don't think that people think is going to happen to them, is what it amounts to. It happens very quickly, too." Harvey now works part time for $8 an hour, and she draws Social Security to help make ends meet. But she still cannot afford an apartment, and so every night she pulls into a gated parking lot to sleep in her car,along with other women who find themselves in a similar predicament. There are 12 parking lots across Santa Barbara that have been set up to accommodate the growing middle-class homelessness. These lots are believed to be part of the first program of its kind in the United States, according to organizers. The lots open at 7 p.m. and close at 7 a.m. and are run by New Beginnings Counseling Center, a homeless outreach organization. It is illegal for people in California to sleep in their cars on streets. New Beginnings worked with the city to allow the parking lots as a safe place for the homeless to sleep in their vehicles without being harassed by people on the streets or ticketed by police. Harvey stays at the city's only parking lot for women. "This is very safe, and that's why I feel very comfortable," she said. Nancy Kapp, the New Beginnings parking lot coordinator, said the group began seeing a need for the lots in recent months as California's foreclosure crisis hit the city hard. She said a growing number of senior citizens, women and lower- and middle-class families live on the streets. "You look around today, and there are so many," said Kapp, who was homeless with her young daughter two decades ago. "I see women sleeping on benches. It's heartbreaking." She added, "The way the economy is going, it's just amazing the people that are becoming homeless. It's hit the middle class." She and others with New Beginnings walk the streets looking for people and families sleeping in their cars. The workers inform them about the parking lot program. New Beginnings screens people to make sure they won't cause trouble. No alcohol or drugs are allowed in the parking lots. "What we are trying to do is we pull bad apples out, and we put good apples in the parking lots and really help people out," said Shaw Tolley, another coordinator with New Beginnings. Most of the time, the lots are transition points. New Beginnings works with each person to try to find a more permanent housing solution. "It saddens me when they live in their vehicles," Tolley said. "It is not the most ideal situation for senior citizens and families, but it is reality." He added, "We need to engage this problem. This is reality." John Quigley, an economics professor at the University of California-Berkeley, said the California housing crisis has left many middle-class families temporarily homeless or forced them to go to food banks to feed their families. "Part of the reason why it's so painful in Santa Barbara is, there's so little in the way of alternative housing," Quigley said. "If there were alternative low and moderate housing and rental accommodations that were reasonably close by, you can imagine it wouldn't have this desperate look to it as people living in their cars." At the only lot for women in Santa Barbara, it's a tough existence. There are no showers or running water. On the night CNN visited, a half-dozen women were in the parking lot before nightfall. Linn Labou, 54, lives in her car with four cats. She used to be in the National Guard and is on a waiting list for government housing, but the wait is a year long. "I went looking for family, but I couldn't get them to help me," she said. As for Harvey, she begins each day by walking her two dogs before going to her part-time job. She leaves the dogs in her car with its windows cracked while she works. It's another chapter in her life that she's certain she'll get through. Her 19-year-old daughter moved in with friends to avoid being homeless. Her other children live overseas, and she didn't want to tell them about her living status. Even if her children offered to help, she said, she wouldn't accept it. "They know me well enough to know that I will get through this." "My daughter especially is very unhappy. Sometimes she'll cry, and she'll call and say, 'Mom, I just can't stand it that you are living in a car,' " Harvey said. "I'll say, 'You know what? This is OK for right now, because I'm safe, I'm healthy, the dogs are doing OK, and I have a job, and things will get better.' " CNN's Gregg Canes and Traci Tamura contributed to this report.

There are so many things about this story that got to me. One, I have gone through layoffs, and I know too well the devastating effect it can have on your life. Without the help of family and friends, it scares me where I would have ended up. I can't tell you how that worries and haunts me, even now. I worry about it happening again one day--I worry about ending up like the woman in this article.
Two, in the sunset of your life, you shouldn't have to live like this. And having pets, I can sympathize with this woman so much. Some folks who read this article can say this or that about what is good for the animals, but I know what it feels like to feel like you have lost everything...and to not want to lose those babies--those animals that are a part of you, and that love you, too.
I do believe that where this woman lives is one of the most expensive places in the US to live and relocating wouldn't be a bad idea, but imagine her predicament. Where do you go when you don't have the resources to search for a job outside of the city or state and you feel so lost?
Anyway...this article made me think about how far I have come in the last few years and how fortunate I am. As a woman, it made me ache for these women. I am so thankful that this organization is doing this to give them some small safety. I hope this article brings publicity to this organization, these women, and this situation.
Something else happened tonight, that I will write about later and it hit me that all of this is happening to remind me to give back. I have been doing some of that, but I need to do more. I need to volunteer, to support organizations like the one in this article in my community.
And one last thing...why isn't this "breaking news"? I know, I know, there's too much of this. But, seriously. How much worse can the economy get? How much scarier can this situation be?
Please pass the CNN article on to others, especially those in the Santa Monica area. Click here to go to the original location.
photo: Gregg Canes, CNN

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Sunday, May 18, 2008

Party Plans


I went to Cassandra's mom's 60th birthday party yesterday. A friend asked me on the phone this morning if I had fun. I said--you never have to ask if I had fun with Cassandra's family--that is a given. You can't go to Brenda's house and not laugh until you are in pain. They are all hilarious.
Brenda's friends are also hilarious. The house (and pool) were filled with an assortment of Cassandra, Jimmy, Brenda and Jim's family and friends, along with all the kids. It was raucous fun and there was yummy food, to boot!
I didn't stay into the wee hours like I usually do, but I was there long enough to get a few pictures. You can see more on Cassandra's blog.

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